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Bachelorette Party Advice - Ask Doctor G



 

Before the panic alarm sounds, Dr. G is here to save the day with advice, answering the most common bachelorette party and bridal shower questions. Dr. G has a vast knowledge in pre-wedding party festivities and can help you solve your issue before it becomes stressful. Dr G. states, "I want to make sure the last night out and bridal shower are as stress free as possible so I am here to help."

Check out the questions below that were sent in from other bachelorettes, bridesmaids and maid of honor visitors. It may just answer your question. If you are interested in the best in Bacheloretiquette then click here and for some great party tips!

 
 

Dear Dr. G,

I'm planning my best friends bachelorette party, and I have a few questions. The bride herself is only 18, and all her friends are all under 21. I'm wondering how far in advance to send out the invitations, and when the party should be. She is getting married on July 22nd. I'm also curious as to what/where it should be, being that we are all under 21. We don't like the 18 and over club idea, but I want to make this a fun and crazy night for her. I'm BEGGING for your help :) Thanks so much '

Signed, Bachelorette Help Needed

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi Bachelorette Help Needed,

Thank you for your email. We hear this a lot and the most important thing is to have a great time with your friends and not worry about the age issue. The bachelorette party invitations should be sent out as soon as you know where the party is and what dates so you can give the bachelorettes enough time to plan and go. The rule of thumb is at least two to three months in advance if possible but start the buzz early with emails out. There are so many great ideas that include a favorite restaurant or hangout, dance class, pampering fun at a spa, favorite concert or musical and even just a get-away to a fun hotel or hotspot. Bring lots of bachelorette party games which will fill in the time and decorate any place you go in making it more festive. You will not go wrong! Check out our travel tips if you are traveling to another destination. I hope this helps and check out our entertainment ideas page as well as some other great sites to help including:

BachelorettePartyIdeas.net * BacheloretteParties101.com * BachelorettePartyGames101.com

I hope these help and have a great time at your friend's last night out!

Regards,

Dr. G

 

Dear Dr. G,

We are planning a bachelorette party in NYC for my cousin. There are three bridesmaids that are under 21. We are trying to find a 18 and over bar/restaurant in NYC so we can all be together. We also wanted to find a suite in NYC that will not be way to overpriced. Do you  have any suggestions for fun 18 and over bars?

Thank you, NB

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Dear NB,

Thank you for your email. I get this question a lot since there are many younger bridesmaids that participate in weddings. My suggestion is to start out at a cool trendy restaurant that has a bar. Then, the younger bridesmaids can leave and the older ones will continue till their hearts content. You can hit bars, clubs, rent a limo and do whatever you want! I hope this is helpful and that you have a great bachelorette party.

Dr. G

 

Dear Dr. G,

I am in a bit of a predicament, thankfully time is on my side for planning my best friend's bachelorette party. A bit about my bride-to-be friend: She is a atheist, scientific-minded doctor of occupational therapy. She is of a personality more on the wild side a brain to keep it under control. I am the exact opposite in most ways. I am extremely embarrassed by anything that is too much at all and am nowhere near a wild child; more like a repressed old-fashioned quiet type. We do have a few things in common: We aren't for ANYTHING overdone. No strippers, no clubs, no getting wildly drunk and bar-hopping. Though this is her wedding, I cannot help but be caught between what she would consider fun and what I would be too embarrassed to participate in! The other members of the bridal party are either just as wild-sided and one other, as far as I am aware, may be a bit more like me but I do not know her well, she is the groom's sister.

I am willing to bend a bit and perhaps get that lifesavers shirt you mentioned cause that sounds like something I could deal with and she would like, we just don't want anything embarrassing. We are not going any farther than one city away (so no Las Vegas for us). We are in Wisconsin and going to Chicago for the last night out. Most of the bachelorettes are in their mid to upper 20's, all legal, if that helps any. Thanks for any help you can get me here.

Thanks!
HelpOnTheWay

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi HelpOnTheWay,

Thanks for the email and great description. I understand your predicament and many are in the same boat. My suggestion is to speak with the bachelorette on how she wants her bachelorette party to go. We have a great page on bachelorette party entertainment that deals more than just strippers. Chicago is a great town with great entertainment, whether you want to mix it up and go to a spa hotel, dinner and a male review which is more tame as it is a show. Or you can always keep it mellow and have a dinner at a favorite social spot and get an exotic dance lesson. Our suggestion is to ask the bachelorette on what she wants as it is her party and not the bridesmaids or other bachelorettes. That way, you know your friend will have a great time.

Regards,
Dr. G

 

Dear Dr. G,

I am the Maid of Honor for my sister's wedding in September. We've already planned the date for her Bachelorette party and where we are going to eat. After we eat at her favorite restaurant, we are going to go wine tasting. There isn't much to do in Michigan. So, what can we do after the wine tasting that doesn't involve strippers, spas, beaches, bowling alleys, casinos or bars but is still fun for 15 or more ladies?

Thank you!
Unbelievably Frustrated by a Bridezilla

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi Bridezilla,

Thank you for the email. There are a lot of great things to do after wine tasting such as going to a day or evening such as getting pedicures, seeing a great show or musical, going to a concert, going back to someone's house and playing bachelorette party games or even taking a exotic dance class. I hope one of these works for you and have an awesome time!

Regards,

Dr. G.

 

Dear Dr. G,

I am planning my sister's bachelorette party for about 2 weeks from now. She's pregnant but still wants a bit of the traditional bachelorette party. So we are doing a Las Vegas spa component, then out to a fondue restaurant, then out to some bars. The community we're in has all smoke-free bars, and clearly she won't drink alcohol. The catch is how to turn away the potential drink/shot offers from (possibly drunk) guys. While we're all very excited about the baby on the way, my sister would prefer that we not tell complete strangers about her pregnancy, because she just doesn't want to deal with their possible reactions. I completely agree and so do the bridesmaids! I want her to have a perfect night and not have to deal with any inappropriate or judgmental reactions. Any thoughts on creative ways to explain my sister's non-alcoholic beverage choice throughout the evening? As a medical student, I could come up with some fancy medical explanation, but I would really like something more fun than that.

Thanks in advance!
Creativity-less

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi Creativity-Less,

Great question and also valuable as we don't want her drinking or in an awkward situation. The best thing to do is to say that she is on medication that does not allow her to drink or to state, in a joke like fashion, that she is in a 12 step program for brides that don't party prior to their big wedding day. Always have a friend around her to make sure there are no pushy boys who either pretend to give her a virgin daiquiri and actually place alcohol in it. She can also always make sure to walk around with a drink in hand that is semi full so no-one tries to purchase another. As long as you have someone around her who is watching, there will be no accidents.

Regards,

Dr. G.

 

Hey Dr. G,

Well my friend is getting married NEXT WEEKEND, and I have not planned her bachelorette party. I am the maid of honor (www.bridesmaid101.com), but I am only 18, and she is as well. She is 18 and pregnant, so there's not much we can do. And she also got into some trouble a few months back, so she has a curfew of 10 set by the court =/ . This poses a problem as you can see. And I'm on a very strict budget since I am a college student, and I know the other bridesmaids will not even think about pitching in. What should I do?? Any suggestions...

Signed

Troubled

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi Troubled,

I have heard this main issue many times and the best solution is to have a home party where the bride can feel comfortable being out, money can be saved at a home party and little can be spent on decorations and food since much of it can be made. Play bachelorette party games, tell memorable stories and take lots of pictures! The important thing is that you are all together having fun for your friend's Last Night Out! Check out our other ideas and I hope you have an wonderful time!

Regards,

Dr. G

 

Dear Dr. G,

I am the MOH in my best friends wedding in September. I am wanting to give her a bachelorette party maybe go out to a local bar and invite some of her other friends. I do not have a problem paying for all of the brides drinks and food if we go out to eat before going to the bar. But do I have to pay for all the guests drinks and food to...and how would I word that in the invitation.

Signed

Confused

 
 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi Confused,

Thank you for the email. Traditionally, the Maid of Honor AND the bridesmaids all chip in and cover the bachelorette. The Maid of Honor does not have to pay for all of the bridesmaids' drinks, food, and bachelorette party gifts as that would be too costly! I think it is more helpful to call each girl personally and let them know this as it is hard to place this on an invitation. I hope this helps and have a great party!

Regards,

Dr. G

 

Dear Dr. G,

This is my first bachelorette party to put together, and well it wouldn't be so hard if it was just the girls. But I'm throwing a co-ed for the bride and groom and I want everyone to have fun. They asked that there not be any strippers so I'm trying to find something to be fun for everyone! It's going to be at a house and I figured food and alcohol but what else????? I'm starting to panic because it is only a month away and I have a budget. I want it to be a unforgettable day for them both and the guests. Any suggestion's?

Sincerely,
Stressed-out

 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Hi Stressed Out,

Thank you for the email. There are many things you can do with a co-ed bachelorette party. Some great ideas are to all go out for a nice dinner at your favorite place and then go to some favorite bars. Other ideas are to go to an arcade and be kids again, miniature golfing, or a concert. Other ideas are to split off earlier and the girls go to a spa and guys to golf and then meet back. You can get some great ideas on the pages at our entertainment section. I hope this helps!

Regards,

Dr. G.

 

Dear Dr. G,

I'm getting married next month and my bridesmaids have been bugging me about what I want to do for the bachelorette. My original idea was to go see a band I'm friends with, but they're playing too far away on the night we want to have the party, and I'm just not sure I want a big drunken extravaganza. My friends want to rent a party bus to go see them, but I feel like that will turn into a mess. I am not opposed to having a few drinks, but I don't see the necessity or the appeal in being totally intoxicated. What I really want to do is go to dinner and a theatre show, but I know that they feel this is too expensive and boring. How do I help them shake the notion that to me a bachelorette party doesn't equal the bride and everyone else getting smashed off their rocker?

Thanks,
the Anti-Bachelorette

 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Dear Anti-Bachelorette,

I agree with you completely as the bachelorette party is about you and not only what your friends want to do! Since it is your "last night out", you should have a say in what you want to do. You can do a combination of first going out to a reasonable dinner and theater and then going to a bar (not getting smashed). It does not have to be expensive or boring! I hope this is helpful and remember it is your party! Another great way to celebrate is to have exotic dance lessons taught by a professional!

Have a great party and enjoy.

Regards,

Dr. G.

 

Dear Dr. G,

I am the Maid of Honor at my sisters wedding in October. I am very honored that she asked me but there is only one problem. I don't know anything about weddings, getting married, and planning the Bachelorette party. I am only 19 years old so we have a little problem with going bar hopping and I don't have a clue what to do, how to make it fun so she doesn't regret having me as her maid of honor or anything. I am so dumb-founded when it comes to this stuff!!! Do you have ideas, suggestions for me to make it a fun night for her?

Thanks,
Little Sister

 

images2/redcross.jpg (2773 bytes) Dear Little Sister,

Thank you for the email and your question comes up a lot for us! There are so many things that can be done for those who are under 21. The best ideas for a fun bachelorette party are going to a nice dinner that has a bar but is an under 21 place with a mature/fun atmosphere. There are other things such as going to get a manicure/spa treatment, going to a concert or musical and even just a fun hang out at a home party!

You can find some great ones at our game ideas area. I hope this is helpful and that you have an amazing time at the bachelorette party!

Regards,

Dr. G

 

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